Women's issues have always been on top of the list and the hottest topic ever. From the very 17th cent till now 21st cent.we have heard and seen many crimes and cases against womens. Most recent if we see is during lockdown domestic violence on womens and children's had increased.
This topic is and will always be close to my heart, crime against womens is taking place after every minutes and hours it really warms my heart to hear about such threatning violences happening arround. Being a feminist, i always thought women's are the one who go through lot of violences, yes it is true but after counseling some men's too i realized not only women but there are some men's in our society who goes through the same and we are unaware of what actually is happening to them.
Psychoanalysis have always showed that women's are emotional, weak compared to mens as men's are said to be strong, logical and can deal with all type of situation but not forgetting that womens think emotionally and so she is said to be best version of her that's the reason she can take care of her husband,children and family. Its due to this compartmentalized thinking about 'gender' our society has adopted and made a norms of male and female as how should they behave and think.
Whether you are female or male at first we all are human being, and human being is said to be rational animals. Every individual has emotions but due to gender norms of males and females many mens dont open up and share their problems.
I will try my best to do comparative analysis on both with the help of my friend "Rushabh dixit" who has shared his views on male and have analysed men's problem and kept his own ideas forward.
Today women's are educated, well versed, settled and proggressing in every field. We see many Successful women's and hear about their success stories too. Inspite of these things there are many woman's who face violences and deal with these traumatized situations. Why there is still the same problems in society. Domestic violences has always been increasing in numbers even if woman has succeded in her live and Carreer still she faces these challenging situation.
women goes through mental trauma, abuses,physical assaults,beating,eve teasing,rape and her character is judged and many more problems like this. We know she goes through alot of defame also. Some women's choose to raise their voice and some prefer to be silent. The reason for not coming in front and raising their voices are fear of spouse, family and society as they are scared their name will get spoiled some are scared as there might be no one to support them and might be thrown out From their in laws house.
One or the other woman is a part of this crimes as she is not aware of where is the safest place for her to stay, at home issuses of domestic violence, out of her house eve teasing, bullying, rapes. she may never know what may be next prepared for her. Sometimes she wants to raise her voice but society will not allow her to speak up. There is something that makes her fearful as people will judge her character and prejudge her on her problems.
Womens are not a toy they have their lives, let them live. You and me are no one to keep her hundred of names or to judge her. She knows what is best for her, if she can take care of her family, childrens and in laws don't you think she is strong enough to take care of herself it's just because of her parents and in laws she is quite as she dont want them to face problems. Its not because she is strong she can deal with violences, physical assaults, abuses.
"We say womens are next to goddess" how many houses follow this. How many of them actually praise women. Might be few of them. Being women is not by choice but its by chance. Womens might be weak and silent but still she is commited towards her work, family, Childrens and many more things that she is bound to. She has to run her house and also not forgetting many womens are well employed and has to look after both.
One of the prominent feminist philosopher simone de beauvoir" quotes
"One is not born but rather becomes women".
As we see many womens faces challenges there are mens to who has to deal with same challenges.
We all have heard about "mens too" movement. Pseudo feminist who has allegedly put charges on males there are some dear brothers who has gone through mental pain, physical assaults, abuses just like womens. Due to wrong allegation of rape etc. As mens too deal with problems in their life but yet they pretend to have strong mindset just to maintain happy surrounding. So there is no one who will judge him for his emotional behaviour.
If any male try to share his problems, feelings people judge him as weak hearted and sometimes laugh at him. Is this how we are going to discriminate mens on their gender. It is said that if a boy/ man cries its a shamefull thing as we always heard "mens don't cry".
Only they know what they are going through how they are tackling the situations as they too have their own fights and battles but they dont show up. How sad they feel and what is killing them deep inside only one knows who goes through it. Some genuine boys/ males are named as pervert, rapist and such names they get is because of few mens who really are bad in nature because of them other mens have to suffer. It makes them feel disposable, replaced. They too are abused and raped also they are victim of their very own partners.
They also face rejections and hurdles. It affects them psychologically. This turns them to start removing their frustrations on near ones. As they cant open up their feelings and have fear to be prejudged as what people and society will name him.
We all need to be gender unbiased by giving respect to every individuals which will promote more of equality,peace and harmony in home and society.
This topic is and will always be close to my heart, crime against womens is taking place after every minutes and hours it really warms my heart to hear about such threatning violences happening arround. Being a feminist, i always thought women's are the one who go through lot of violences, yes it is true but after counseling some men's too i realized not only women but there are some men's in our society who goes through the same and we are unaware of what actually is happening to them.
Psychoanalysis have always showed that women's are emotional, weak compared to mens as men's are said to be strong, logical and can deal with all type of situation but not forgetting that womens think emotionally and so she is said to be best version of her that's the reason she can take care of her husband,children and family. Its due to this compartmentalized thinking about 'gender' our society has adopted and made a norms of male and female as how should they behave and think.
Whether you are female or male at first we all are human being, and human being is said to be rational animals. Every individual has emotions but due to gender norms of males and females many mens dont open up and share their problems.
I will try my best to do comparative analysis on both with the help of my friend "Rushabh dixit" who has shared his views on male and have analysed men's problem and kept his own ideas forward.
Some common issuses faced by women:
Womens are said to be weak and emotionally unstable due to this capabilities people think they can't take care of every aspects in their lives.This thinking is because of the patriarchy system that has rooted in the so called 'society' and still there are some people who follows this male dominons. Times have changed, we are now living in the modern society still the problems persist to be same no changes we can see at all.Today women's are educated, well versed, settled and proggressing in every field. We see many Successful women's and hear about their success stories too. Inspite of these things there are many woman's who face violences and deal with these traumatized situations. Why there is still the same problems in society. Domestic violences has always been increasing in numbers even if woman has succeded in her live and Carreer still she faces these challenging situation.
women goes through mental trauma, abuses,physical assaults,beating,eve teasing,rape and her character is judged and many more problems like this. We know she goes through alot of defame also. Some women's choose to raise their voice and some prefer to be silent. The reason for not coming in front and raising their voices are fear of spouse, family and society as they are scared their name will get spoiled some are scared as there might be no one to support them and might be thrown out From their in laws house.
One or the other woman is a part of this crimes as she is not aware of where is the safest place for her to stay, at home issuses of domestic violence, out of her house eve teasing, bullying, rapes. she may never know what may be next prepared for her. Sometimes she wants to raise her voice but society will not allow her to speak up. There is something that makes her fearful as people will judge her character and prejudge her on her problems.
Womens are not a toy they have their lives, let them live. You and me are no one to keep her hundred of names or to judge her. She knows what is best for her, if she can take care of her family, childrens and in laws don't you think she is strong enough to take care of herself it's just because of her parents and in laws she is quite as she dont want them to face problems. Its not because she is strong she can deal with violences, physical assaults, abuses.
"We say womens are next to goddess" how many houses follow this. How many of them actually praise women. Might be few of them. Being women is not by choice but its by chance. Womens might be weak and silent but still she is commited towards her work, family, Childrens and many more things that she is bound to. She has to run her house and also not forgetting many womens are well employed and has to look after both.
One of the prominent feminist philosopher simone de beauvoir" quotes
As we see many womens faces challenges there are mens to who has to deal with same challenges.
Some common issuses faced by men:
Thoughts kept infront are purely giving by "Rushabh dixit" and some observances of my own.We all have heard about "mens too" movement. Pseudo feminist who has allegedly put charges on males there are some dear brothers who has gone through mental pain, physical assaults, abuses just like womens. Due to wrong allegation of rape etc. As mens too deal with problems in their life but yet they pretend to have strong mindset just to maintain happy surrounding. So there is no one who will judge him for his emotional behaviour.
If any male try to share his problems, feelings people judge him as weak hearted and sometimes laugh at him. Is this how we are going to discriminate mens on their gender. It is said that if a boy/ man cries its a shamefull thing as we always heard "mens don't cry".
Only they know what they are going through how they are tackling the situations as they too have their own fights and battles but they dont show up. How sad they feel and what is killing them deep inside only one knows who goes through it. Some genuine boys/ males are named as pervert, rapist and such names they get is because of few mens who really are bad in nature because of them other mens have to suffer. It makes them feel disposable, replaced. They too are abused and raped also they are victim of their very own partners.
They also face rejections and hurdles. It affects them psychologically. This turns them to start removing their frustrations on near ones. As they cant open up their feelings and have fear to be prejudged as what people and society will name him.
We all need to be gender unbiased by giving respect to every individuals which will promote more of equality,peace and harmony in home and society.
Judging between the two either of gender sometimes is very toughest who is right & wrong for which our laws & orders,our society or anyone finds it difficult & can punish the innocent one without knowing the truth to bring equality between the two gender we need to make it bit strict an idea is there should be some camera or video recording in buses,trains,platforms,roads,society,work places,at homes at necessary places all controlled by new department of domestic violence setup by govt who will take care of all such problems faced by either of gender I would cover even senior citizens & ur kids safe from those nanny or caretaker in ur absences,even ur home safe from those theifs because today every home has internet same way we need to work on security where we will be well informed about whats going on behind our back at home,work place,everywhere.And yes we can tackle all such problems in our life that cause problems in ones life,family,society,etc.
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